I chose this section because it seems very à propos.owing to some of the rather caustic posts lately:
Fewer people seem to embrace courtesy these days; likely because many of our leaders think insulting and ridiculing their colleagues (political or commercial) is "good governance."
Societies that give in to that are diminished and disempowered.
I put this is "Career" because, when you learn the power of courtesy and tact, you will go far when you embrace it.
Good luck to everyone on their respective career paths.
> j_M007 (Contributor II) posted a new reply in Career on 09-18-2018 04:42 PM in
> In the meantime, wouldn't it be great if from nursery on
> up our care givers could imbue in us the Golden Rule of Courtesy: "Say (do) unto
> others what you have them say (do unto you"?
Actually, in the case of online communications, even that doesn't work. One of the first pieces I published on the net (it wasn't even called the Internet, yet, way back than) was on the fact that messaging systems are almost designed to create misunderstandings. Culturally, we tend to give greater weight to written communications than to verbal. However, the ease of online messaging sets up a disparity: we consider our postings to be "verbal" (since they are easy), but anything we read to be "written" (since they are, well, written).
Therefore, we tend to assume, like @PC509, that anything we send should be considered a light and off-the-cuff joke, but anything someone else writes to us is a deadly serious insult. Even if it is exactly the same wording. Don't say unto others what you (think) you would have them say unto you: always back your tone off several notches.
I guess this is of interest in the community. How does it extend into the organization? Are there metrics or indicators that HR security folks use for taking due diligence and due care with the workforce?
There are so many ways and means that actively aggressive insiders can take. Then there are the passive aggressive insiders that can wreak havoc not only on equipment, but more on morale Backbiting, bullying, demeaning takes on more powerful dimensions when done incognito.
Are there indicators or triggers out there that perceptive professionals can monitor?
@rslade I like your thought provoking style.
However, it could also mean some anxiety or even mental illness:
There are many aspects of this from behaviour, to social acceptance and group thinking in terms of it being the norm - "following like sheep" etc; or the other aspect of Wellness and Mental health.
It can also be a cultural aspect, following the norms within the organisation itself.
Detecting these adverse behaviours, and resolving them is an important social skill, which in today's pressure pot, will occur more frequently as we progress.
Does that mean then we are all too PC?
In some ways, yes. I was told that when replying to emails, try not to use "Thanks!" because it can come off in a sarcastic way when it's not meant that way. I'm fairly informal when I speak or type most of the time. But, to stay consistent and more formal and more "PC", to use "Thank you." as it can be taken fairly literal and not sarcastically. Replies should be more like the written word, rather than the spoken word. I still find that difficult to do most of the time. That's why I try to make sure it's taken less serious and more of a positive tone and not negative.
> Caute_cautim (Contributor III) posted a new reply in Career on 09-19-2018 06:54
> Does that mean then we are all too PC? Â Regards Â Caute_cautim
Unless you're Mac ...
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I reserve the absolute right to be smarter today than I was
yesterday. - Adlai Stevenson
Okay, Okay - I will be an IBM Z14 with full pervasive encryption.
Or I can be "Politely Correct".
Excellent advice on both posts.
My gran (a very smart woman) used to say "If you don't have anything nice to say, maybe you should just shut up"
So true, that is a good piece of sage advice that can apply in any occasions.
It is always better to take the high road in these situations. I would be nice to have a forum and additional guidance in protecting our companies and our own professional standing. With social media, the "Fake News", ignorant leadership, misguided marketing and other venues it can be difficult to wait and "hold your tongue".
This would be a great topic for our new/upcoming leadership to address along with a great discussion/training opportunity in terms of ethics, leadership and professional communications.